So a while ago, I might have mentioned a little crush of mine on a certain someone. Well, in these few weeks, I’ve realized a couple of things about the reality of crushes.
The problem when we have a crush on someone whom we don’t know that well is that we tend to put him or her on a pedestal. Aside from the first ‘spark’ that got your attention, everything else may fall pale in comparison when reality strikes. The first ‘spark’ can be anything that creates the first hint of attraction. It could be the look, a certain talent, a reaction towards something, a certain action, the way they speak, etc etc, the list goes on. Anything at all that may have ignited that first spark of attraction. More often than not, that’s about where the reality ends. 😉 People tend to make an assumption on the personality and image of the person they are crushing on based on whatever that first spark the attraction. And more than often, we end up getting a little disappointed because as time passes, we start to realize that they aren’t what we expected in reality.
Though I’d like to state that ‘they aren’t what we expect in reality’ doesn’t mean they’re bad. It simply literally means that they’re not what we expect. For example, I expected a certain someone to handle a particular situation maturely, but he ended up handling it, in what I’d call, a little childishly, coming across as a little socially inexperience. It’s not a bad thing and he’s actually not childish. He just falls below expectations, in this particular situation 😉
Anyways, this is only one example. I’m sure there are many more examples out there. While having a crush on someone could be a fun feeling, given it’s just a crush and not falling in love, take care not to put the person on a pedestal if you don’t know him or her well enough. That may lead to disappointments, sometimes. 😉 Funny how it took me so many years and so many crushes to realize that. Then again, maybe I’ve know all these unconsciously, but never really gave it much thought until now. 😉 Not that it would make much difference. I’d still have crushes when some guy does something that light that first spark of attraction for me. Teehee! 😉