Reflection

Last day of 2015. And here I am, quietly and comfortably snuggled on my couch at home at 11.10pm. Boy, it has been such a year. The good, the bad, the ugly, the pretty. But now that I have some time to look back, I realized the good definitely outweighs the bad, and the pretty outweighs the ugly.

Learnt so much about human nature this year. Things that makes me smile, things that makes me frown, things that makes me smirk and things that causes about 1000 snarky/sarcastic remarks to race through my head. πŸ˜‰ One of the hardest but best things to master in life is to not take anything too seriously. Disclaimer : This does NOT mean to take everything as a joke. πŸ˜› But rather, learn to let go whenever needed, and laugh it off when its warranted. πŸ™‚

After more than a year and a half of no proper exercise routine since I started working, I’ve started taking up swimming again mid of this year. Nothing too high impact like the gym classes I used to go to, but I figured, 3-4 days of 1 kilometer swim per week is a good start. Am super glad I’m slowly shifting my lifestyle back to a healthier and fitter one. Though its gonna be a long journey to get back to how I was 3-4 years ago. Hm.

I’ve also decided to officially start my YouTube channel after having fun creating my trial Christmas cover video. πŸ™‚ If there’s one thing this year has taught me, it would be that life is too short for us to live u to other people’s expectations. Hence, I’m continuing my drums lessons. Planning to get a set of e-drums soon. Also planning to pick up a new language. Still a toss between French of Spanish. Hm. πŸ˜€

As we’re entering the new year, and I’m getting to my 30th birthday in approximately 3 months, I’ve learnt that the most important thing in life is to do things that makes you happy. Nothing else really matters. You need to be able to make yourself happy before you’re able to make others happy. And hence, I’ve decided that I’m gonna fill 2016 to the brim with things, activities and people who makes me genuinely happy and makes me look forward to life everyday.

I mean, what is life if you have nothing to look forward to? Β πŸ˜‰

Happy 2016!

A ‘Meaningful’ Birthday Wish

Right at the beginning of 2013, I made a decision. I removed my birth date from Facebook. Somehow, someway, I’ve realized that most of the wishes on Facebook barely means anything nowadays. People just wish you ‘Happy birthday!’ simply cause Facebook tells them too. It’s not as if they truly care to remember your birthday. There was a time when friends will note down your birthday and remembers it. Up till now, I remember all the birth dates of my close friends from my schooling years. No Facebook needed. I know it may seem ridiculous, but I personally don’t think so. It means so much more when someone takes the effort to note down and remember your birthday, rather then just log in on Facebook and happen to see the notification that it’s someone’s birthday.

So this year, I made that decision. And it goes both ways. I wish only my friends ‘Happy Birthday’ and really not bother much about acquaintances. I don’t even bother checking the birthday notifications on Facebook anymore. πŸ˜‰ Though, now that my birthday is coming up, I’m a little curious to see how many people actually remembers without Facebook telling them. πŸ˜‰ Oh well… I’d rather receive 5 meaningful birthday wishes than 100 wishes that don’t mean a thing.

Awesome Indeed!

20130109-025058.jpgI really feel we should all start practising this. I mean, nowadays, I walk into a restaurant or a cafe and all I see are people sitting together at tables bit their attention is on their gadgets instead of on each other. I, for one, am guilty as hell. But since I noticed this a few weeks back, I’ve been trying to tone it all down. Keep my phone in my bag, and have conversations with my mum whenever we’re having dinner outside.

As much as I love my iPhone, I feel that the invention of smartphones have built a thin wall between people. With the increased usage of smartphones, people are growing apart slowly. I mean, there used to be conversations at the dinner table in a family. Catching up with each other on how their day was. Now, many families don’t even bother asking. They fool around with their gadgets while waiting for their food to arrive at the table, or while waiting for the rest to finish their meal. It’s very subtle, but families are not bonding as much as they used to. Friends aren’t bonding as much as they use to. You go out to hangout with your friends, and more than half the time, at least one or two in the group will be on their handphone. I remember when I was much younger, 17 or 18 years of age, maybe, and me and my friends would just hangout at the Starbucks. Boy, we had so much fun, just chatting and laughing with each other. And all our attention was solely on our conversations and each other. Those were the times.

I love my iPhone. I’d love to get an iPad. And I’ll continue using it as a benefit to myself. But I’ve made a decision to try and put my phone completely aside whenever I’m out with my family, relatives or friends. With the exception of phone calls, I’ve cut down on reading messages and replying them on the spot if they’re not important. Also stoppedΒ checking my Facebook or Twitter or Instagram when I’m out with my family or friends. It’s seriously not an easy habit to break, but I’m happy to say I’ve made some progress. ‘Some’ being the operative word here. I’ll contiinue to work towards that though. πŸ˜‰

I told myself not to make new year resolutions this year, instead just make a plan and put it into action. But, I’ve decided to make this my 2013 resolution. That I will control my use of my smartphone and not let my smartphone control me. πŸ™‚

‘Appeal Points’ : The 3 Guys

A recent karaoke session at RedBox opened my eyes towards a certain thing. 3 guys. Totally different. Displaying different personalities and behaviors. Yielding different level of attractiveness and different number of ‘appeal points’. Mich and I did wonder if age was an issue. But we seriously doubt it.

Guy number 1. Approximately 2 years younger than us. Not really sure what’s up with him. But if I were to label him, it would be ‘anti-social’. Sorta, anyway. Yes, some of them at RedBox that day are new to him. Being shy around new people is one thing, but losing your confidence is a total different thing. It’s alright to be shy, but never lose your confidence. This guy ended up being quiet and keeping to himself in a corner, almost the entire 7 hours we were singing. And boy, did we try to coax him into joining the fun, singing together and chat with us. None of the attempts were successful. Gotta say, it made him look very unattractive and very unappealing. It’s even more obvious when there are only 6 people in the room.

Guy number 2. Also approximately 2 years younger. Not as anti-social as the first. He took a while to warm up. Gradually fitting into the group. But it took hell of a coaxing to get him to slowly open up and join us in the fun. Truth be told, we were kinda getting tired of coaxing. Luckily, a friend of Mich and I, whom guy number 2 is interested in, didn’t give up on him. Lol. Finally managing to get him relax and have a little fun, towards the last hour of the singing session. Gotta say though, with the way he acted, it does gives off a slight vibe of arrogance and smugness, whether its intentional or not. And though he is pretty decent looking, the behavior he displayed the past weekend? Kinda made his ‘appeal points’ drop quite noticeably.

Guy number 3. I guess this guy did make the other two look worse. Not physically, but as a whole package. Not exceptionally good looking. Kinda average. But he carried himself well. Being the same age as Mich and I, he’s bout 2 years older than the other 2 above. He ain’t bad at singing, though not exceptionally good. But he was a good sport for it. Picking the songs he wanna sing, singing them, and even stepping up to take the mic for the songs we requested for him. Rap parts included. And even though he ain’t good at rapping and we all had a good laugh over it, it makes him fun to hang out with. He even tried coaxing the 2 guys to join in the fun, when that very day was the first day he met them. He can be a little shy sometimes, but he never let that rob the confidence he had. Put him beside those two guys, its safe to say, he scored the most ‘appeal points’, coming across as a little shy but confident, adaptable and sociable without being cocky.

Now, its obvious that looks alone won’t get you anywhere far. It’s the whole package that counts. Good personality and behavior can make a person look so much better than someone who is physically good looking but lacking personality and good behavior. Personality and behavior is what adds to the appeal points. Let me just say, ‘appeal points’ don’t only count in that romantic sense. It’s applicable also as a person, as a friend or as a good company to chill out with. Generally, high ‘appeal points’ makes a person more likable.

There’s nothing wrong with any of the guys, of course. It’s just that Mich and I suddenly realized, what kind of people makes it fun to hangout with and what kind don’t. πŸ˜‰

Holding Hands

I think many people, or rather lovers, underestimate the action of holding hands. The intimacy in the simple action of lacing your fingers with your loved ones’. You see, holding someone by the waist or around the shoulders, that can be pretty common. Close friends do that sometimes when they’re really relaxed chilling out, having a laugh or a fun time together. Even friends do that when taking photos or random stuff like that. But holding one’s hand, lacing your fingers with theirs, it may not look intimate, sometimes may not even feel intimate, but you only hold the hands of your family members or your loved one. Heck, we don’t even hold our family members’ hands anymore when we grow up. We gotta learn to appreciate holding the hand of our lover. Sometimes, that means more then all the touchy, feel-y, grope-y actions that people call lovey-dovey. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying those aren’t important. Am merely stating that, we gotta learn that the simple things means just as much or sometimes, even more. =)